“I don’t need anyone but him.”
My parents were firm believers that I should be independent. I believe the same, not to the point that I am adamant about never letting a man help me but enough to know that I should be complete before marrying. I complete myself. I am whole by myself. I want to share “complete” myself with a “complete” man and have friends outside of him. However, some people that I did have friendships with, don’t know or don’t want to juggle friendships and the spouse. “I don’t need anyone but him. He’s my best friend.” I understand that there’s many reasons that people feel that way. I do not. I feel like there should be balance: me+him, him+his own friends, me+my own friends, and us+our mutual friends.
I don’t ever want a man to tell me that he “cannot live with out me”, nor will he ever hear me say that to him. It isn’t realistic to me. You live for yourself and I live for me and WE live together. I won’t say I don’t enjoy fairy tales because I do. However, my life isn’t a fairy tale. I live in the real world where I prefer realism. I find it so beautiful when a couple has lived their lives to the fullest with a companion just as wild and free as themselves. I want that. My heart is too wild to be tamed. Some people want that “I can’t live without you love”. No. My grandma’s neighbor lost his wife and two weeks later, he was gone. He was 90-something. He was active, had grandchildren and a Deacon in his church. No way that he shouldn’t have been able to live a few more years. On the other side, I lost my aunt and her husband is still active. They are young ( he was 53 and she was 54) They have grown children and young grandchildren. He works and has friends. Now, they have been together since they were teenagers. I understand the age difference but I am referring to the will to live. I want to be like that should my husband pass before me. I will still have a will to live.
Sorry, I am jumping off topic. The point I am trying to make is that I want to live completely and I want to roam around with my “complete” husband. I am not bashing people who cannot live without their mate. I don’t and will not imagine my life with just a single person in my life but THAT single person and a gaggle of people whom I trust with my energy. Life is complicated and I want some simplicity in that complicated life.
Love Black Beauty